How to become a social butterfly or maybe just a pest [Part 1]

The title may not be that exciting, but this post might help you with your social life (or maybe just waste your time). Anyway, this post is about becoming a social butterfly, not the exact ways on how to be sociable, but rather relating my own personal views about a topic I've read on wikiHow.com a while ago. Since its June, the month where schools from pre-school to senior high school starts, my own personal reflection about these ways might help you, or may just give you ideas on how to avoid being invisible til the end of your school year. I'll be giving only the first part of this post's content so, yeah, let's see what we have here...

First method: GETTING INVOLVED

1. Mingle with different crowds - Identify the cliques at your school, and then make it a habit to interact with all (or most) of them. Don’t limit yourself to one crowd! The key to being a social butterfly is being able to flit from one situation to another with ease, so the more groups you are friendly with, the easier that becomes.

My response: Okay... So what if mingling with other crowds alternatively isn't the best first method? You might end up being alone if you mingle with too much people, right? Don't just approach people quickly then say "bye-bye" then go to a different crowd quickly. Seriously, do you even want permanent friends?

2. Put yourself in the spotlight - Being a social butterfly doesn’t mean you always have to be the person to initiate every conversation. By putting yourself in the spotlight, people will learn your name and recognize who you are. This often leads to them starting conversations with you instead of the other way around!

My response: I'd rather stay mingling with others than taking too much spotlight. Why? Simply because there are just too much judgmental people surrounding you in different genders with different aspects, right? They might see you as an attention-seeker. 89% possibility. The remaining percentage? That's just luck. You'll see. Next!

3. Sit with different people at lunch - Everyone has a group of people they usually sit with at lunch every day, but lunch can be a great time for socializing. You don’t have to abandon your usual set of friends, but after you chat with them awhile and catch up, excuse yourself to go say hi to other people.

My response: Well, yeah sure. It can help. Talk to others while taking a break. As for me? That wouldn't work if you started talking to me while I'm eating. Food is life. NEVER TALK ABOUT LIFELESS TOPICS TO A HUNGRY PERSON, especially a girl. Don't just wander randomly to different tables too or people will see you as a desperate freak.

4. Make plans and accept invitations - You can talk to new people until you’re blue in the face, but your social circle won’t truly expand until you start developing your relationships with new friends. Make plans with a new pal to see the movie you talked about at lunch last week, or ask someone from class if they want to study or do homework after school.

My response: About the idea at the end, make sure you'll do homework, prioritize it. Either way, its not bad hanging out with people outside school, but make sure of your safety, of course. Some students have super duper strict parents like mine. I was just about to ask yesterday;

Me: Mom, can I-

Mom: NO.

Me: (I was just about to ask... yeah.)

5. Follow school events - Keep up with what’s going on at school and try to make it out to a variety of different events so that you can meet a wide range of people. Attend a basketball game, volunteer to help organize prom, check out the theater group’s new play – no matter what you choose to do, it’s inevitable that you will meet new people, create bonds, and widen your social circle. Before you know it, you’ll be that social butterfly that you’ve always envisioned yourself to be.

My response: I'd rather be silent at first and join school events to be able to introduce myself clearly while showing off. LOL. Simply, this is a good idea. People will know you with what skill you have. You also might be able to have friends from your team or the team/group that you joined. But remember, don't be rude and boastful!

Second method: DEVELOPING THE RIGHT SKILLS

1. Remember names - When you meet someone new, make it a point to cement that person’s name in your mind. Write the person’s name down if you have to. The next time you see them, say hello and use their name. It sounds like such a small thing, but people feel recognized and important when they hear their own names.

My response: People usually do this to their crushes or their types. Calling their names to name-calling them like "baby", "babe", "honey", and other yucky names. On the other hand, a person feels important and special when their names are remembered by other people. I don't usually call them by names 'cause I might be unsure of it. Most especially at my current class, I have classmates that are twins and I can't differentiate them well enough.

2. Give genuine compliments - Avoid saying things just to feed someone’s ego or get their attention. When you give someone a real compliment that you honestly mean, that person can feel that it’s genuine. Not only will the person feel flattered, but they will remember you for it.

My response: Well, I don't usually do this expect if I really mean it and I adore it. Like for example, I have a classmate that's really cute, girly and innocent whom I got close to. I, unhesitatingly, told her that she's really cute. I'm pretty silent yet straightforward. Remember, don't give fake compliments that might change the way of the person's mind o way.

3. Relate to others - One of the best ways to start conversations and make friends is to relate to the person you are talking to. When you steer a conversation in a direction that allows you to relate to someone, it creates the feeling of sharing something. It forms a kind of bond between the two of you, and even if it’s a small one, it’s a start.

My response: This was a part of our topic at school 7 to 8 hours ago with our 'Oral Communication' teacher, Ms. Kaye (Good day to you ma'am, if you're reading this!) and she mentioned about this "field of experience". Well, of course, how can anyone maintain a conversation without having the knowledge of what the person is talking about. Can you keep up to a conversation when both of you have different topics in mind and are not familiar with each other's thoughts? I guess no one can or only few can.

4. Look interested - You aren’t going to be interested in everything that people say to you all the time. It’s just not possible. But make an effort to at least appear interested and engaged in the conversations you’re having.

My response: A reader asked me about this. No, you're not being a fake-a** b*tch, you're just being respectful. Well not everything that people say will make you interested. You also may not understand their thought but you want them to know that you're still listening to them by nodding, agreeing, raising your eyebrows or humming that means agreeing or telling them a phrase like "Oh, I see" 'cause some people just want to have someone to talk to or just wanted them to be heard.

5. Enjoy conversations - Getting in the habit of small talk and chatting takes practice, but don’t let it become an empty gesture. Be lively, make jokes when appropriate, and talk about topics you genuinely find interesting whenever possible. This makes chatting with others so much easier, and you’ll find that both of you will start looking forward to future conversations with one another.

My response: What's the sense of talking or chatting to someone if you're not enjoying it? I'm usually the one joking around whenever I feel like it, but once I joked out, most people laugh crazily. At school, or with my friends, I'm not that talkative, honestly. I'm only at my best and worst when I'm with my boyfriend. We're the best of friends that no one can separate. When someone starts trolling, the other will follow, then you'll hear laughs, laughs everywhere. Anyway, remember guys, don't just stare at them or nod, respond and reply too.

So anyway, I'll have to end the first part here. I'll update the second part if I had another leisure time. Keep updated with my posts 'cause anytime I might mention the start of our 1st giveaway! Sorry if my post or my words are a bit boring for you. To those who appreciated, thank you sooooo much! ❤️

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