How to become a social butterfly or maybe just a pest [Part 2]

Hey, guys! Sorry for the late post about our topic. I've been busy with my online classes and configuring my other websites and online boutique. Okayyyy let's go on for the discussion.

Third Method: APPROACHING NEW PEOPLE

1. Prepare your intro - Often the hardest part of making new friends is breaking the ice. Work on a generic, simple routine for introducing yourself to others and modify it to fit each new situation and person. Incorporate a question into your introduction so that the other person will have to strike up a conversation with you, even if it’s a short one.

My response: Don't try swooning people with sweet talks and such, just be yourself. Don't try imitating others. Live your life in your own way. Approach people with your own self. Also, choose your words, try not using words that you possibly, uh, don't use often. Let them see your true character.

2. Smile! - Even if you’re feeling nervous, always try to start conversations with a smile. It immediately makes the other person feel relaxed and friendly toward you.

My response: Smile naturally. Smiles are contagious. When you see someone smiling at you, in a friendly way not in a creepy way, you smile back, right? The same goes for them. Smile and they'll smile back. What they see in you will let them describe you.

3. Watch your body language - You’re probably going to feel a little nervous, but work on maintaining a relaxed demeanor. Always make eye contact when you are interacting with people. Stand up straight and don’t cross your arms, since that gives off the vibe that you are uncomfortable.

My response: Move like what you are feeling. Don't be nervous, like I said earlier, be yourself. Let it naturally go out. Be careful not to move carelessly that'll make you look mean or rude.

4. Bond on social media first - Making friends with someone on Facebook first, or following them on Twitter or Instagram, can be a great way to start a face-to-face conversation later. Try to keep your interactions lighthearted and natural, not creepy and stalker-ish.

My response: Okay, social media? One of the best way. Most people, even the millennial teens ALWAYS use social media, right? They get the good vibes when someone followed them, liked 3 to 6 of their photos and posts, and compliment them in the comment section where people will see your comments publicly and will let them look famous or so. Take this as an advantage. Be sociable on social medias is what they say often.

Fourth Method: CHANGING YOUR OUTLOOK

1. Confront your fears - Think about what’s holding you back from being a social butterfly. Are you shy? New at school? Afraid others might reject you? Not good at small talk? Whatever it is, once you identify it, you can eliminate it by facing it dead on. Stop focusing on what people will say about when you walk away, and start focusing on what you want to say when you walk up to them.

My response: So what the thread was saying that "think positively and don't mind the negative outcomes". Don't be afraid to try. You won't be heard if you don't talk. I was also thinking about being rejected or being embarrassed in front of many people, but IDGAF about it. If its good, then go. If it isn't then, let it go.

2. Leave your comfort zone - In order to expand your social circle, you’ll need to start putting yourself in social situations that you aren’t used to. Start expanding your horizons in small ways and work your way up to bigger things. Pick a few events that you wouldn’t normally go to but are interested in, and make it a point to check them out.

My response: This one became hard for me, but think about it too. you won't enjoy new things if you don't start experiencing it, right? Your experience might be good or bad, but what I'm saying here is it ain't gonna hurt or it won't be that bad.

3. Set Goals - Becoming a social butterfly is a process that takes time. If you go in expecting to change overnight, you may set yourself up for failure. Set small goals along the way that you can achieve and feel good about. Keep your goals simple and strive for things like introducing yourself to two new people every week and going to one place you’ve never been to before.

My response: Setting a plan doesn't mean planing on meeting and greeting each and every person you meet while walking. you don't have to meet them all. You don't have to fit yourself in every people. Set goals that will make your moves easier. Not everyone will like you, so if you failed on one person or a set of group in socializing and interacting with them, try going slowly with other people. Plan it, then do it.

4. Start your day with positivity - Look in the mirror in the morning and tell yourself that you’re awesome, because you are! Put a sticky note on your alarm clock with a positive message on it, so that it’s the very first thing you see when you wake up. It doesn’t have to be complicated – something as simple as “Today will be a good day!” can make all the difference in the world.

My response: Same as before, avoid thinking negative. Take things slow and steady and gather energy to look like you are living. LOL. Smash your alarm clock, shout "I'M AWAKE!", drink that coffee with one mega sip, etc. Be energized and keep that good mood.

5. Be Patient - Don’t get discouraged if you aren’t seeing results right away. It takes time to build new friendships and explore new places. One action won’t suffice – instead, it takes many small actions to make a big life change.

My response: Like what I've said before, things will get on you in time. No need to hurry things up. Take everything nice and steady. Others take time to be approached or to know how to approach you back. Remember, there are still people like you, that needs process and training on being sociable and friendly.

And that's the end of our great and helpful (I hope) topic. I wish you guys all the luck in trying to oppose your anti-social butts into a well-known friendly person. Some may not apply to you, some may. Still, the main factor of being a social butterfly is to be Y O U R S E L F. People like people who act and behave well, think well, and a bit like 'em. So if you have further questions about this topic or maybe needs an advice, you can drop an e-mail at the "contact" section of my blog. Thank you so much! You guys are awesome. Luv y'all! 💕

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